Mike had to get some work done on Sunday morning and I had planned on taking Lila to the Child Life Play Center again but she had a really runny nose and her cough was back. So we just hung out and played, which was nice. But not seeing Ian always makes me a bit anxious, especially after only being there for under 2 hours on Saturday.
Lona arrived around 11 am because Mike had planned a lunch and movie for the 4 of us. We arrived for lunch all together, it was a nice time except for Lila was dropping an occasional rude comment to Lona which I'll address later. He had bought movie tickets for Babies. It would be Lila's 2nd movie theater experience. The first one was not so great and that was Ice Age but it was about 6 months ago so we thought maybe this one would be better. Not so much. It was a wonderful idea for a movie and perfect for adults but Lila was squirming and asking questions the whole time. Why is everyone laughing Mommy? Why this? What's that? Etc. Totally normal, and if we were home watching it, would be perfect because we could take the time to explain why we were reacting the way we were. But all is did was stress me out and make the people around us frustrated. We eventually had to leave but we did get probably half way through the movie.
When we arrived home Mike & Lila took a bike ride. I thought I'd try to get a few minutes of rest. Of course I had to pump and then couldn't sleep.
My throat was feeling a bit funny, which was concerning me. I was going to try to go to the hospital in the evening while Mike hung out with Lila but my sore throat made me think twice and I'm glad I did. Later that evening, it got worse. I powered everything I could to minimize it but by my pumping session in the middle of the night, it was uncomfortable to swallow. By the time I woke up, I was definitely sick!
The conversation we had that night probably didn't help. It's been so stressful because, on top of everything else, Lila has been rude to her Grandma and, turns out, to the babysitter as well. I had discussed it with one of the Child Life Specialists at the hospital. Most likely Lila feels out of control and that's the one way she can garner some back. I've had many discussions with her regarding why she needs to be nice to Grandma, and everyone for that matter. I've given her some room time to think about it. One time she actually told me that she just wanted me or Daddy to be there instead of Grandma.
It won't be the first discussion of that kind I'm sure. We came up with a plan of action to try to let her know how much we want to be with her and what a wonderful thing Grandma is doing to help out. Also, how much Grandma loves her and loves to spend time with her.
And with Grandma, we talked about her reaction. We all need to model the appropriate behavior so she knows how to react appropriately when she has the same feelings because someone does it to her.
I tried talking to Lila the next day, Monday, before I left for my doctor appointment and Kim came to watch her. Not sure if it did anything but Kim said she was her polite sweet self for the day. And when Lona came to pick her up today, to give me a break to rest and get better, she was super sweet to her and very excited to go to her house. We'll see what the report is when we get her back.
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